How Do You Keep Going When Things Fall Apart?

Develop unshakable resilience.

Aemen Farooq


Resilience is the life skill you must have. It’s the capacity to bounce back from setbacks. It gives you the power to transform pain into wisdom and fear into courage. It just won’t let you crumble, no matter how hard life gets.

Life does not come with a roadmap. There are twists and turns to navigate. Roads that are rough and bumpy. You might experience traumatic events like the death of a loved one, a life-altering accident, a life-threatening illness, or financial ruin. The only way to survive any challenge life brings is to go through it.

Dodging it or ignoring it does not work. It will only cause you more stress and everything you don’t want.

So How Do You Go Through Challenges?

Let’s break it down, shall we?

  1. Be Proactive

Resilient people don't let problems fester and grow. They face their problems head-on. Instead of becoming overwhelmed by negative thoughts, focus on action.

2. Protect Your Downtime

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Resilient people are well-rested. They have the energy necessary to confront their problems. Don’t fuel yourself with three shots of espresso but by genuinely setting aside time every day for self-care and self-reflection.

Maintaining a downtime strategy will allow you to be ready to focus when unexpected twists and turns arise.

3. Shift Your Mindset About Adversity

It’s one of the biggest asset you can use to build resilience. Stop thinking about adversity as a problem and think about it as a chance to grow.

Instead of asking “Why is this happening to me?” ask yourself “What can I learn from this experience?” This shift in mindset is so powerful because it keeps you distracted from pain and suffering.

4. Develop Healthy Relationships

Resilient people acknowledge they can’t do everything by themselves. Developing strong, healthy relationships with…



Aemen Farooq

I write about mental health, self-development, self-care, and life lessons as they happen. Editor of